Individual, couple and family therapy

"The quality of our relationships determines the the quality of our lives"
Esther Perel

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Rachel Nokes – Relationship specialist 

Individual, Couple and Family Therapist  

I am an experienced individual, couple and family therapist. I’ve been working as a therapist for over fifteen years. I see clients face to face and online via zoom. My clinic in Bulli, near Wollongong is a tranquil place nestled in the rainforest where herbal tea is always brewing. Walk down the garden path, through the wooden gate and enter a tranquil space. Take a deep breath; you have arrived into the luscious rainforest that surrounds the Ray of Light clinic. Here, with the backdrop of nature’s chorus, you will be greeted with a warm welcome.

At different junctions in life, we find we need to support the support of another. Counselling not just about identifying a problem and finding a solution,  it is also about illuminating unknown parts of ourselves. After which we emerge and grow further into ourselves and our relationships. I see my role as holding a space of inquiry for you and perhaps the closest people in your life to explore ways in overcoming obstacles and creating the kind of life and relationships you want have. 


Dr Dan Siegel says, “When we attune with others we allow our own internal state to shift, to come to resonate with the inner world of another. This resonance is at the heart of the important sense of “feeling felt” that emerges in close relationships. Children need attunement to feel secure and to develop well, and throughout our lives we need attunement to feel close and connected.” I look forward to supporting you in attuning to yourself and those close to you.  

Booking your appointment  

When you are ready to move forward with counselling please fill out the counselling intake form. I will be in touch within 72 hours to confirm I’ve received your details. If you don’t hear from me please call me on 0414 585 688. A brief phone assessment with both partners or familiy members may be necessary if you are looking for couple or family counselling. 



School teacher

“If I could provide three words to describe Rachel, I would use kind, gentle and graceful in her approach. Rachel has a loving ability to hold space for true feelings and emotions to unfold. During our sessions, she offers practical and tangible tools through a yogic, and counselling lens, leading to many ‘aha’ moments and a shift in daily rituals, inner dialogue, habits, and overall energy.” 



“We always leave a session in a better place. When we have tried counselling before, we found we’d leave still annoyed, if not more so, with one another as our nitpicking was magnified. Rachel’s sessions always address areas so much deeper. I’ve learned so much about our nervous system, why patterns repeat and how to actually move forward. It’s not that my husband and I don’t still disagree, we are just able to diffuse much quicker and catch ourselves before the spiral. Rachel’s deep knowledge in all her disciplines works beautifully together to teach and heal. She is incredible!” 

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Rachel’s approach


Relationship counselling inspired by family systems theory, attachment theory, The Gottmans, Esther Perel, David Snarch. 

Polyvagal and trauma-informed counselling 

RET- Rapid exposure tapping supporting clients with disturbing and traumatic memories

Yoga therapy – embodiment practices,  using gentle movements, breath and mindfulness 

Compassionate inquiry as taught by Dr Gabor Maté


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